The third tells of a mother who helped her daughter with a disability at a temple dedication. Show me a sinless mother and she can be my ideal too. My best friend (unmarried, childless at 51) has been asked to speak. I issue a challenge to top this worst Mothers Day sacrament meeting talk. May the blessings of heaven rest upon you. On the night before His Crucifixion, Jesus Christ met with His Apostles and instituted the sacrament (see Luke 22:1920). I personally am skeptical of ever looking to people for ideals. She discusses the divinity of motherhood and how every woman can become a mother in the world around her. Members have now learned to accept it. And, invariably, as soon as I would send one on his way, Im not a mother, thank you, another would pop up at my elbow, dutifully, kindly twisting the knife. Honest! Isnt it reasonable to think that Abe is trying a little too hard, and might be overcompensating for something? Just a thought. Or any talk. Their talks often included poems about the immeasurable amount of crap mothers had to deal with. a large group) sang to the mothers. Most seemed to realize bishoprics are trying and they appreciate any effort. This is what I need for . Aleah Ingram May 3, 2021 Entertainment. 1) Peanut butter sandwiches served with a smile tastes much better than the fanciest meal served with a side of stress. Im catching up on the comments, but Kristines suggestion in #72 is perfect. For those in Europe, is Mothers Day celebrated to the same awful-gut-wrenching extent? Im sort of hoping that the person before me goes too long and I have to wrap up with my testimony. We all do., The relationship between mothers and daughters is at the heart of this talk from Elder Ballard. Although I have the suspicion that he had an ulterior motive of hoping never to be asked to speak again. I dont remember terribly well, but at the Episcopal church I attended for a while, I dont think Mothers Day was nearly as emphasized as it is in the LDS church, because its not part of the liturgical calendar. Last year we did two songs for the Mother's Day sacrament meeting, and they turned out beautifully, so I thought I would share them with you. Why in the church is there such a strong, almost secular aversion to motherhood? Any suggestions as to what you would truly and realistically appreciate being presented? 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As far as Jesus is concerned, he was sinless so is able to stand as an ideal. I had some ideas but didn't want to repeat anything that had already been done from the Primary. I gave a MD talk one year and focused on Emma Smith, Naomi the MIL of Ruth and my daughter who was a young mother at the time. Not that I am anything special, but I gave a Mother's Day talk when I was a bishop that was so well-received even my own mother loved it. I agree with the chocolate, lack of talks, and the third hour refreshments! Thanks. President Hinckley addressed all the women of the Church and thanked them for all the work they do in their families, congregations, and communities. Nothanks to my back problems got to fly non-stop from Atlanta to Seattle. The sacrament provides an opportunity for Church members to ponder and remember with gratitude the life, ministry, and Atonement of the Son of God. An ideal is fine to have in your own life, but imo it is dangerous to attempt to have one for a worldwide religious organization. Diversity and Unity in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Environmental Stewardship and Conservation, Joseph Smiths Teachings about Priesthood, Temple, and Women, Peace and Violence among 19th-Century Latter-day Saints, The Manifesto and the End of Plural Marriage, Translation and Historicity of the Book of Abraham. This talk by Sheri Dew focuses on how motherhood is for all women, regardless if they have children or not. My oldest, the musical and noisy one, composed parodies of many favorite primary songs about a decade ago when she was under the tyranny of those zealous but misguided young mothers. If youre already perfect, who needs it? Im sorry too for the harshness In my expression in a previous thread regarding your views of sacrament meeting. Christian churchs teach that you are inherently bad, that it is not entirely your fault and that Christ has already saved you and after He gets around to telling you (if He hasnt already) that you forgiven and are His, you will do nonspecific good things he directs because you will naturally want to do them. Talking to other grownups while nice doesnt belong in 3rd hour. The primaries (100 of them? As a member of our bishopric, I assigned the topics for this weeks talks, all motherhood focused, and I have forwarded your paragraph with Elder Eyrings quote to each of them. Questions and Answers about the Sacrament, Remember Jesus Christ during the Sacrament, The Restoration of the Sacrament (Part1: Loss and Christian Reformations), The Restoration of the Sacrament (Part2: A New and Ancient Covenant), Sharing Time: Be Grateful for the Sacrament, Viewpoint: The Sacred Ordinance of the Sacrament, Young Men, Teach about the Sacrament, Brother Beck Says. Mother's Day Singing Time Idea. I have to go home right after Sacrament meeting, because the Sisters all bring their flowers with them to the other meetings. Alece, I also love CS Lewis, and agree that we should look to higher ground in our mortal journey. It hurts. I too have wrestled with the infertility monster and MD was always a nightmare. Tracy M posted an amazing video that deals with the general concept of this post in a really insightful way. Then she spoke with conviction about the grace of Godthe grace that helped her forgive herself for the serious problems she caused her children that could have been prevented if shed prepared herself, and the grace that helped her achieve later in life the spiritual depth she had lacked when her children were young. That being said, my ward will be nice and quiet next Sunday, one of the joys of the YSA wards. Speechless. He also addressed many different groups of women separately with distinct advice for their situation, including women with small children, older women, and women who never marry. I think this can be especially true for women who feel theyre just holding on. Ive endured (and thats the right word) too many Mothers Days that were awful, meaningless, and unrealistic. EOR, I would venture to say, even with being fairly new to BCC that few here mean to give offense. By It defines our very identity, our divine stature and nature, and the unique traits our Father gave us.. The Mothers Day talks in my singles wards have been quite sensitive to childless women, but still pretty women-on-pedestalsy. She was not worthy of any review from me. I have had a lot of thoughts about Father's Day because my father passed away on May 23 about a month ago. It seems like awareness and knowing your audience as mentioned before, is half the battle. I hope none of you mind if I quote from this. Great, and I was just asked to talk on Sunday, I guess I will be very careful. Food is the communication tool of choice for Latter Day Saints. Then the clincher, it is only for women to celebrate and they need to be left alone to celebrate it as they demand and see fit. The answer has been taught by the Lords prophets. So for over a decade, Ive loved Mothers Day, just because I know it wont end with all of us crying. This is a tradition of man, and sometimes it is just a bad idea. He emphasized there is no one perfect way to be a mother and that every situation is different. I spoke one Mothers Day about Eve and Mary, and thought it was a good talk and well-received. Something else for me to kill.. Too often folks with food allergies, diabetes, and similar challenges are left feeling like second class saints in our food-laden church culture. It worked well in my ward, I think. That wouldn't let her do such and suchall things in the end that weren't good for her daughter to do, one way of looking at it. I cant remember the last time I heard a bad sacrament meeting talk, period. What does that say about us as a people? I wish you were speaking in my ward! This reflects a very different image than the one we portray to the world about our values and what we say means the most to us. from Pres. Aiming for Heaven is again looking to the sinless for examples, not to an episode of Leave it to Beaver. To be fair, diabetics can eat chocolate. I agree! I dont mean to be rude, but I know I will have anxiety over killing it and then I *will* kill it and then I will have to look at its dead body. There is a *big* difference a HUGE difference between being *foreordained* to something and actually **BEING** something, as is made very clear in the temple. April 24, 2016 in General Discussions. The deacons hand out small potted plants to all women 12+ years, then the sisters eat cake in Relief Society (served up by the RS presidency.). But since youre not, Im bowing out this year. Very useful counsel, Mark. LDS Mom Launches Exciting New Party Game. This cup is the new testament in my blood, which is shed for you (Luke 22:1920). This talk was named after a phrase from Victor Hugo who gave all her food to her children, not because she is not hungry, but because she is a mother. Elder Holland talks about the central role motherhood plays in the gospel of Jesus Christ and gives many principles of comfort and courage for mothers who may be struggling. She never got her kids back and they never forgave her, and she died of some incurable stress induced disease. Only for the second time he also included a segment about how if his wife was a better homemaker maybe his kids wouldnt have such screwed up lives. It falls short when it is not delivered with love, patience, acceptance, humility, an understanding of the limitations of REALITY, and the the Gift of the Holy Ghost. I wont be attending this Sunday either, but as always will honor my own mother by being the best mother I can be to my hurting children. It is even worse when women are so enthused with Father's Day that they want to ignore it completely - as in absolutely not mention it. I only mentioned Mothers Day once, and I said how much my mom hated the hypocrisy of Mothers Day, and that we should treat women right every day of the year, not give platitudes one day of the year. The perfect hymn for Mothers Day Sacrament meeting. Father's Day Talk in Sacrament Meeting June 21, 2009. Tell the moms that you'll be playing a game with the kids on Mother's Day and that . He also discussed the importance of placing motherhood first in our lives but not allowing the pressures of motherhood to sap us of joy. The reminder was given to visit those sisters unable to attend on Mothers Day. I actually feel it is not so dissimilar on fathers day, particularly since the disparity between them can demean men. Yes, the rhetoric has calmed down, but is certainly still present. On the road this week I attend Mother's day services with the fourth ward in St George Utah. The speakers were: 70-year-old married sister w/ no children; mid-30s sister who works full-time, dh is the stay-at-home parent, and theyve adopted 2 children through the foster care system; and a single sister. At first I was wishing that I wasnt, but after thinking and praying about it for a few weeks and speaking with friends and family, Im rather excited about it. Even though Mothers Day is now a reasonably happy day for me personally, I still find that my mind is focused on how other women in my ward might be experiencing it. Im asking this out of genuine curiosity/responsibility for handing stuff out. I choose to stay away for most MDs and all FD. Im also a High Councilor, who always tries very much not to speak in rose-colored platitudes that, sadly, you associate with High Council speakers. May your prayers be answered and your hopes and dreams become realities.. There are a number of other conference talks on the subject (righteous traditions, family traditions, etc.). I always had this huge chip on my shoulder about refusing the flowers because I wasnt a mom (I had kids later in life), but my own mother would force me to take it because it was a free flower. I think its good to have something to air at! Ill be hiding in the clerks office. Print out the short questionnaires included in the printable and distribute them to the mothers in your ward a few weeks before Mother's Day. Were here to help! *As I type this, I know for a fact that someone out there is going to respond that their ward gives men plants for Fathers Day every year. Classic! Some were difficult for metotell without choking up. In the UK, my experience has been that sacrament has at least one talk and often a few. The first speaker was my favorite. Then it gives them the option to (1) print traditional paper programs, or (2) give members access to a digital version of the program on their phones. And this is all in addition to the everyday problems like getting the bills paid and the laundry done. Scriptural women are perhaps safer :-) And in our ward, the men get cans of Dads Root Beer or Sugar Daddy candies. It is Mother's Day and yet the day is supposed to about everything about women EXCEPT being a mother. My wife spoke on Mothers Day (which I originally thought was a bad choice, because she herself appears to the outside world to be the perfect mother) about her own mother and some of the simple things her mother had done for her that made a big difference in her life and how grateful she was. But I was not a mother, in spite of my tears and pleadings with the Lord. Since I believe he (the Father) and my Heavenly Mother are probably equals, Id say we know a lot about her as well! I haven't a clue about how to interact at times. One of her favorites: Im so bad when daddy comes home, Think about your message and how it will sound to the entire spectrum of your sisters in the ward. Ive decided to speak on how motherhood allows me to develop Christlike attributes (knowledge, patience, temperance, etcref 1 Peter 1:4-8) through daily struggles and reliance on the atonement and then finish with how wonderful it is that mother is only one of the facets of who we are as we strive to become strong women of God. Could someone remind of what the day is for after all? It is Mother's Day and yet the day is supposed to about everything about women EXCEPT being a mother. Why can't we let women celebrate it how they want at home and focus on Christ at church? Our new bishop, for the last three years, gave no gift or acknowledgement. Said she, If you havent convinced your mother that you love her the other 364 days of the year, nothing you say on Mothers Day is worth a damn.. I dont think it would occur to anyone to give a man a plant for Fathers Day *, but its very common to give women plants for Mothers Day. I would say that my grandmother was like a second mother to us, but really she was like a first mother. kc I love me some Pres. Thanks for clarifying. Ive lived in numerous family wards, and Ive never gotten as much as a crumb for Fathers Day, at least not from church. I think its the best way to go. Gag. The talks are mostly bearable (though no picnic), but the worst is when the youth would spread out in search of women who were not holding whatever flower or chocolate. Nothing, wakes people up in sacrament meeting like talking about chimpanzees dismembering each other. Thats what insulin is for. I give, is it supposed to be about mothers or not? I went to Sac. More than at any time in the history of the world, we need mothers who know. I still dont understand it, which is probably why Im still very nervous about having kids. Have a variety of ages speak on ideas or what they've done to help their mothers and ways they've stayed close to their mothers. Lewis moments ago which speaks directly to those thoughts: Thanks for the reminder. Cannot load blog information at this time. I didnt realize Mothers Day was so close. Mothers Day was open so I said ok, I will come up with something appropriate. Every week they strive to prepare for that sacred ordinance with a broken heart and a contrite spirit (see 3Nephi 9:20). Maybe the Hallmark channel should use some of his conference clips as fillers when movies end early. I totally agree. Put me in the column of those who think Sacrament Meeting should be about Christ. With that in mind, there are great ideas in this discussion thread of ways to do exactly that. Or should we just not celebrate anything or any role that a person may fulfill in life? Focus on womanhood and examples of strong women, not on a perfect homemaker mother. In Bishopric meeting this year, I quoted your little sister regarding plants. Aleah served a mission in California and loves baking, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies. I recommend that you take President Eyrings approach and assume that the women to whom you are speaking are doing their best, but that often their very best means just barely hanging on. 3rd hour had all of the PRI & YW leaders including the YW themselves in RS with homemade lemon cakes from the teacher. I know that traditionally it has been men and children who honor mothers. Keep in mind, this is from a male perspective, andmy opinions might be worth exactly what you paid for them. Plus, I thought it was extra cool that the Bish consulted the RS pres. Special celebrations can and should be held at home within the family. I have seen, heard and experienced much of the imperfections, joys and sorrows in life, and know that reaching out for and holding on to the Iron Rod brings souls closer to the ideals with every step. But alas, Mother's Day 11 years ago will forever be known as the day I landed face down on the floor of the chapel, on top of my 3-year-old, in the middle of sacrament meeting, with my skirt flung over my head. We got the story about women blessing their cows a couple of years ago. I also choose to focus on the women in the scriptures like #30 has mentioned. I know some women get upset because they arent mothers, but it doesnt bother me. When chocolate is handed out, our children end up begging for it but its the one day I wont share. I know they happened fairly regularly in my own adolesence and early adulthood, but I cant remember one Ive heard personally in quite a while. A day focused on mothers is hard enough for many women, and much more so when thats all they hear about at church. My preference is for a talk focusing on women of the scriptures. There are diabetic men, arent there? They always see what they havent done instead of what they have because they are constantly reminded of what they should be doing. Ere the sun goes down: They really did. Weve gathered this collection to help you study, write talks, and share powerful LDS quotes about mothers. They would eat honey cakes and give flowers. Being there with my son was very nice. The music . Well done! This has been a big concern for me, as there are many women in the ward who are very sensitive to the Perfect Mother talks, and I didnt want to heap on to their burdens. It hits pretty close because Im one of those lucky people who get to speak on Mothers Day this year. Why shouldn't women be those who teach about the glory of god that is woman? Identifying ideals is somehow so treacherous for the psyches of women that that must never be mentioned? Up til now, I have endured going because I thought I had to. Further, that it wasnt the wards responsibility to celebrate the day. When mothers know who they are and who God is and have made covenants with Him, they will have great power and influence for good on their children.. I love this. Thanks. #46 That is an awesome idea for your talk. It was so honest and hopeful all at once. Our HC speaker will be talking about forgiveness this Sunday at the special request of our Leadership. Oh, and my husband is speaking in our ward this Mothers Day. When her dad found out that there was a whole lottashakin goin on without him, he summarily divorced his adulterous wife and took the children to live with him. (i.e. This year in my ward the emphasis was shifted slightly from being a mother to our mothers. On Mothers Day. A nod to moms but no pedestal worshiping. After a lot of thought and prayer I called two sisters to speak on some of the blessings and also the challenges of raising children in the gospel. But I realize others prefer plants. Thats the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me! anon, pretty sure hearing about an old guys non-existent sex life is worse. Sometimes its good, sometimes its bad. So, yeah, how irritated the host is with the comments is pretty much it. Evry idle whisper stilling After living with me for almost 17 years, hed better get it right! The US holiday was only adopted in 1870 and was also used to protest the sacrifices mothers had made when their sons were killed at war or killed the sons of other mothers during the Civil War. Dont twist the knife; let them come to you if they want it. I've done this in past years but always enjoy the new ideas from the participants here As I plan our Mother's Day Sacrament Meeting, what have been your favorite talk topics for Mother's Day? (If you want to see an example, search mormon tax exemption on Twitter.) 30 Inspiring LDS Quotes About Mothers & Motherhood, Church Leaders Honor Mothers Over the Holiday Weekend, Church Releases Tribute to Mothers, You Are Enough, FREE Happy Mothers Day Coloring Page Printable, The Family is a Divine Blessing | 6 March 2023, Come Follow Me Recap Thy Faith Hath Saved Thee | 5 March 2023, Miracles Come Through Fasting | 4 March 2023, Young Latter-day Saint Missionary Passes Away in Georgia, 5 Things You Didnt Know About the Day the LDS Church Was Organized. Just plant a tree and name it after our mothers! They want to give a message of comfort and support to other parents who are navigating the difficult conflicts that can arise in families around this issue. Preparation Print the song pages. In preparation for the sacrament each week, Church members take time to examine their lives and repent of sins. when she becomes a God like I know she will she will be an inspriation to all ladys, What do you think when you see a used car lot with a sign like this: Honest Abes Used Cars! At the end theyll get a rose with some message tied onto the stem with ribbon about how Jesus loves all women. What does that say about us as a people? Your comment was excellent, especially this part: Jesus the Messiah wasnt just sinless, He was God. Enter your email address to follow BCC and receive new posts by email. Thats why youve been my cyber-crush for years. Ziff, thank you. Actually..mother's day should be everyday. "The ordinance of the sacrament," taught then Elder Dallin H. Oaks in 2008, "makes the sacrament meeting the most sacred and important meeting in the Church." 21 Accordingly, in 2015, Church leaders called for a renewed emphasis on Sabbath worship centered on partaking of the sacrament of the Lord's Supper. I should clarify that my mother (and father) are wonderful and I have no complaints. Have a variety of ages speak on ideas or what they've done to help their mothers and ways they've stayed close to their mothers. (just kidding). Kristine, thank you again. Well at least I know what not to talk about. each year when I plan the Mother's Day sacrament meeting I feel an extra bit of pressure to make it special for our wives and mothers. "I am a sociopathic perverted mess emotionally and mentally thanks to the influence of my insane codependent mother.'". Ere the sun goes down: Integrate how Jesus takes care of his mother's future well being while hanging on the cross with the scripture John 19:26-27. Ive never objected to any Mothers Day program, and in my ward, all women get a gift, married, single, divorced, widowed, with or without children. This year in our ward we are having a missionary farewell for Mothers Daynot the old kind where the new missionary and all his/her family speak, but the new kind where the new missionary will be given a topic. Sacrament meetings include music, talks, testimonies and prayers. Gospel Q&A: Can Satan Hear Our Prayers? Im finding actual motherhood so exhausting that I just cant bear to hear about angel mothers right now. The good news is, most sisters want chocolate from their ward family and most sisters usually get chocolate. me) before deciding on these speakers.

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